On July 30th,2016,I wrote an article titled “who will I marry”. But, this is an extension of the former. I will assume a character in some aspects in this article in order for the reader to see the reality, I am sure you will like to follow each line and paragraph for proper understanding. The question is: Who will you prefer to marry?
I can’t know people’s minds, I can’t know their strategic ideologies. The only thing I can perceive is the way they tend to appear. Even if a man or woman has some good intentions towards an individual, how can we know this? If I am to give my criteria as regards the woman I will like to marry I will express with passion because it is a life time contract. It won’t make sense if I start using checks and balances in selecting many, all in the name of a right choice. Your mouth may not be able to do it, but use only one hand to justify it.
Many questions have been raised, such as: Do I have to look for a perfect woman or man? How do I know the right man or woman with a good character? How many years will it take to observe each other? As matter of fact, after these questions, confusion will be happy by activating the consciousness of person’s thinking with a statement like : who will I marry? You are searching for an elegant man or woman whose background is solidified with respect and integrity. To be candid, the picture you are imaging might not be the reality. If that is the case, how can you know the real identity?
If you are looking for a perfect man or woman then, the question you need to ask yourself is, am I perfect? The concept of perfection is not for man to be fully perfect, it is a mere appearance created so that man won’t be limited in his thinking. Hence, we must work towards perfection. Yes, I understand you want a peaceful home but, can mankind live without the concept of war or disharmony? I know you might have been seeing a young charming prince or princess who you have been gazing at, this should not be a problem. If you don’t know who to marry, marry yourself first,in order to realize the next step.
If you have a contemplating mind, it is better for you to relax your mind before making any decision. The mind is so powerful, and if activated, you never can tell what will happen. Remember, marriage is good thing. In other words, marriage is an institution which has its own problematic issues to be solved. Let divorce be exempted from your mind, afterall, I believe you asked yourself this question before crossing the border of companionship: who will I marry? Are you single? Are you looking for who to marry? Don’t jump, wait and ask yourself : what motives do I have in this quest?
MY BASIC ARGUMENTS
Honestly,you know I don’t express like an introvert human being. My arguments are always straight and direct. I have asked about the high rate of divorce in our society today, I have wondered and pondered, may be, people engaging themselves in such an act have failed to cogitate about it. Is it the case that they haven’t thought about it? Or something went wrong?
If marriage is said to be a life time concept, why seeking for beauty? I know you want your kids to be good looking and presentable in public. But, of what essence will it be without peace? You want a good background, how about the character?
As I have said earlier, ideas should be informative. What moral lesson will it give if it’s long like a moving train?
“You have the autarchy to decide which way you want to go. The consequences are always ready for your actions, it may be subsequent or later. What you are seeking for is not hard but, the actualization is difficult to embrace.”—Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua.
Short and direct
“ Only if you have lost your perception then, women will make no sense. “—Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
She was twenty-two years old when she met this man. They got married but she could only enjoy her marriage within the interval of two years because of the beating launched by her husband. This terrible incident catapulted her to the land of the dead thus, at the age of twenty-four she died. Why should a man hit a woman? Is he responsible or irresponsible?
A woman brought you into this world yet you treat her as if she’s nothing. She carried you in her belly for nine months. She Covered and sheltered you with passion and love, till this moment you are radiating within her context. Well and truly, women can be provoking at times but this should not prompt you to beat a woman whether married or single. It has been assumed that whosoever beats a woman is irresponsible, if that should be the case, responsibility won’t be happy with such act.
What must have provoked a man to raise his hands against a woman? But in as much as anger won’t stop dwelling amidst mankind, what can he do? What he can do is to walk away from the atmosphere of that woman in order to quench his unpredictable fury. Women should be cherished and respected in the society perhaps, they are regarded as a vessel of lower standards. If this is true, a responsible man would cater and guide her through challenges not to beat her mercilessly. Yet again, why hit a woman?
Some men will exclaim like a gong saying, “it is the devil”. Why do you always provoke the devil? In contrary, the devil doesn’t provoke, may be you are the devil. Why hit a woman? What has she done wrong to deserve this disgraceful act? Although, women can be annoying at times but your ability to stabilise yourself is what makes you a man. Are you still a man? I hope you have not sold your dignity and integrity?.
Have you imagined a world without women? If men were to be the only existence without the opposite sex. What will be the benefit of life? Who will give birth? Would man and man have sex? We must not ridicule their efforts in the development of life. Moreover, their parental guidance should be eulogised as regards the upbringing of children.
As a matter of fact, this act of segregation alerted some feminists to protest all in the name of equality. But, in retaliation men stood firmly to rebuff this postulation wholeheartedly. This has not forgotten to the extent of beating a woman without or with consciousness. Let this question be your watchword, “Why hit a woman?”.
I was worried about the condemnations and the act of recklessness meted on women. The only way I could be their mouthpiece is to write on their behalf. If this won’t stop then, men will lose their pride, integrity, and dignity. Why hit a woman? Don’t you have conscience? If you are to correct a woman, it should be done with maturity. The moment you beat, maturity becomes immaturity yet you want to be respected.
Men should not sell their world by creating unnecessary scenarios all in the name of anger. Women, do not provoke men. Unity should be embraced by both parties in order to excel in all spheres of life.
“ A man in his right sense won’t beat a woman.”—Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
” I have been looking around, I have been searching for that true material that will befit my personality, but, I couldn’t find a reliable woman. Ask yourself this question : Who will I marry?” – – – – Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
As a matter of fact, “who will I marry?” must be a question for everyone in as much as we are living, this must not be a question for the singles only but, also the married men and women are not exempted from this issue because they should be able to transfer this question to their children. Yet, who will you marry? Is it a lady who has no character but, has an epitome of beauty ? Is it a lady whose background is solidified with wealth? Is it a lady who is elegant and adorable? The choice is yours, and it depends on what you are looking for. It has been assumed that character is like a smoke, you can not cover it for a long time. The above topic must also be launched to ladies who are yet to marry, what kind of a man would you like to marry? A fool will think he or she is wise thus, even foolishness is a platform from wiseness. This is not applicable to all cases.
The above picture is also a watchword for bachelors who are yet to marry. Will you treat your wife to be, sensibly? Will you make her special in public? We can not use a common circumstance to judge this issue, it should be noted that part of the stride of life is to get married and have children. If good children depends on the kind of a woman you marry, then, decency will be permitted. The youths have been cajoled by the worldly sycophantic postulations thus, realities became unknown to them. Even, the good bachelors and spinsters have been betrayed in several relationships. They are still clamoring on this question : Who will I marry? What you want to become is you but, you. Can you deceive yourself? To know the truth, truth must not be true. If that should be the case, who will you marry?
” Do not be deceived by an appearance of a woman or a man, nor, his or her exhibition. This is a camouflage created to get your heart,when the time comes the truth will be unveiled.” – – – – – Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
A blast from the past came suddenly but we thought this should be a mere scenario. This nonchalance became a marriage for mankind thus, he couldn’t rescue himself from the perspectives of good and bad coupled with the importance he has towards life. There is need for exigency in as much as he has geared a serenity in most aspects.
The criteria created was to sharpen the stride attached to man’s life, whether we like it or not, we are all attached to one life. And if there is another life then, there will no need for this life. Aren’t we tired? Aren’t we tired of the quest and questions of this life? At times, man has suggested many options but those options can’t be actualized because he has no life but another life which is not meant for him.
It has become a cage of no return, and a will nilly postulation. The best way is yet to be discovered. Thinking will continue to live, no doubt, we can’t quench it and if we do then, none will be in existence. Once we are married to life, it is forever but it will be over. This marriage will be the fastest in the history of man’s life.
By Akinrulie Opeyemi Joshua
“As for those searching for an extension of life, don’t be deceived. The extension of life is your life”